12 Childhood Habits That Affects Your Relationship Now

People who are afraid to show emotion or, for that matter, initiate conversation—might be described as wallflowers

1. Abandonment

People who cling to others because they’re afraid of being left and don’t feel important relationships will last. They’re usually attracted to partners who cannot be there in a committed way

2. Emotional Deprivation

Most of the time, these patients haven’t had someone to nurture them, to care deeply about everything that happens to them or someone who was tuned in to their true feelings and needs



3. Entitlement

Those who hate to be constrained or kept from doing what they want or feel that they shouldn’t have to follow the normal rules and conventions other people do

4. Defectiveness

People who think they’re unworthy of the love, attention, and respect of others and believe that no matter how hard they try, they won’t be able to get a significant partner to respect them or feel they are worthwhile.

5. Subjugation

In relationships, these people let the other person have the upper hand and worry a lot about pleasing other people so they won’t be rejected.

6. Unrelenting Standards

People who must be the best at most of what they do and feel there is constant pressure to achieve and get things done. Their relationships suffer because they push themselves so hard.

7. Mistrust/Abuse

Those who feel that they cannot let their guard down in the presence of other people, or else that person will intentionally hurt them. If someone acts nicely toward them, they assume that he/she must be after something.

8. Self-Sacrifice

People who puts others’ needs before their own, or else they feel guilty, and usually end up taking care of the people they’re close to.

9. Social Isolation

Individuals who don’t think that they relate well to other people and/or feel that they don’t fit in with any sort of group.

10. Dependence

People who often feel helpless or aren’t capable of making a decision without the aid of another person.

11. Vulnerability to Harm or Illness

Hypochondriacs and/or those who consistently fear that they will be involved in a catastrophe like an airplane crash or hurricane.

12. Enmeshment

Young’s patients who have a weak sense of personal identity and habitually cling to or “mesh” with other people do so in order to feel like a complete person.

Source  http://www.entadaplace.com/18-childhood-habits-that-affect-your-relationship-now/